What is Success? How do you be successful without feeling successful? Does it even exist? Isn't success the most common cause of failure? How is success the most common form of failure when you don't know what it is? How do you gauge success? Doesn't the definition of success change as time passes by?

When we were really young, success was about mastering numbers and alphabets. Then we went on to scoring A's to determine our success, then we competed on the number of boyfriends, money in your bank account, number of credit cards, position in an organisation, MNCs, results of your kids, grandchildren... It will never end until you die. Perhaps if there were afterlives, the elaboration of funeral? The amount of food taken during Hungry Ghost Festival?There is no end to the quest of being the 'best' and the comparing against others. While we 'succeed' in one part of our lives, we 'failed' in another. SO? Who are we to judge these and how do we judge?

Its the environment. All through our lives we are affected by the values, the norms, the perspectives, the venom ppl pour into our ears, so much so that we cannot think objectively. We were too young to see all these then, too old to prvent any influences now. Even then, we may not block the influences because our emotions are shaped, frozen by the stigma that we should feel a certain way when we meet a certain situation. There is no freezing and unfreezing here. You just freeze and wait for death.